Relationships for Life

Answer Yes or No to each question.

1. Cultivation Style.
a. Do you often seek to nurture the people around you? Yes/No
b. Do you often try to tune in to the insecurities of others? Yes/No

2. Outreach Style.
a. Do you build relationships with the people with whom you work? Yes/No
b. Do you tend to keep professional relationships on the job? Yes/No
c. Do you see mentoring as a way to cultivate others or as a way to extend your influence? Yes/No

3. Power Use.
a. Does it work better for you to have clear lines of power with an explicit understanding of who reports to whom?Yes/No
b. Or is it better to work in a fluid organization with people speaking and acting when they have expertise? Yes/No

4. Intuitiveness.
a. Is it easy for you to read the meaning behind the numbers and facts? Yes/No
b. Or to read the hidden meanings behind the way someone else is acting? Yes/No

5. Communication. Do you usually give information to only those who have a need to know? Yes/No

Answer Guide to Gender Leadership Questionnaire

	The Female Style Answers:	The Male Style Answers:
1a.	Yes	No
1b.	Yes	No
2a.	Yes	No
2b.	No	Yes
2c.	Yes	No
3a.	No	Yes
3b.	Yes	No
4a.	Yes	No
4b.	Yes	No
5.	No	Yes

If you scored more on the female side of leadership, you have strengths to build on in getting things done both on the job and in your personal life. Men have one way of accomplishing tasks and this is the way most organizations are structured. They are arranged in hierarchies with clear descriptions of who reports to whom whereas women tend to be more inclusive.

Corporations usually are not comfortable with most women’s natural skill in tuning into the emotions of others, drawing out diverse ideas, and including many people in the discussion. Sometimes that is not always the best way to get things done. For example, in a military battle, it works better to have one person in command and clear marching orders.

However, in situations where there’s no clear solution and anyone could have a new, wonderful idea, the female style usually has clear advantages. Typically, the woman’s skill in building deep and human relationships is important and helps in times of change. So does the typically feminine skill in intuiting problems and solutions and reaching across barriers to get support from unusual sources.